Things I've Learned

In the past year and a half of marriage and 7 1/2 months of parenthood I have learned a few things.

1. Marriage is about compromises. Tyler and I couldn't be more opposite but because of that we have learned how to compromise.
2. You have to communicate. This is one that I learned the hard way. I wouldn't communicate that I paid a bill online so Tyler would pay something else thinking the money was there. A couple of OD fees later we realized we need to communicate what er are doing not only with money but pretty much everything.
3. You don't have to hold a baby all the time. It is OK to let Addisyn play on the floor or in her bouncer. I love her so much and want to hold her all the time but I know she needs to play on her own in order to learn and be independent.
4. It is OK if Addisyn cries. My first instinct is to run over to her anytime she makes to noise but I have learned that she needs to work things out herself. I don't want her to end up like some kids I know who have to be held ALL the time and wont do anything alone.
5. Just because it's "normal" doesn't mean we have to do/have it. I see other couples our age with kids buying houses, and buying new cars, and shopping for new furniture and it makes me think that we have to have a house and a new car and new furniture. But I also look at those couples and realize they are probably in more debt than we are because they are buying all this new stuff. Our car might be old, but it's paid off. We might have to rent, but that is what we can afford. Our furniture might not be the best, but it was free (thanks Mom) and very comfy! Some day we will be able to get all this new stuff but for now we are OK and no one should look down at use for living within our means.